Just Pray Harder

Just Pray Harder Three words that have been spoken by a multitude of well-meaning Christians throughout the years. Words that have traditionally been a response to another Christian’s unhealthy behavior or lifestyle.  It may have been directed towards a...

Gift of Singleness

“Do you think you have the gift of singleness?” It’s a question pastors and well-meaning church friends would ask me occasionally when my relationship status came up. I never really knew how to answer, but I always thought “Yeah and it’s...

Removing Your Eye and Other Extreme Half Measures

I remember years ago in a Bible study, we were going through Matthew and got to the famous passage in chapter 18 about plucking out your eye and chopping off your hand when those organs cause you to stumble.  As per usual, we opened up the floor to allow for...

Men Are Powerless and Women Responsible

“What lies in our power to do, it lies in our power not to do.” – Aristotle  Myth: Men are incapable of taking responsibility for their urges; therefore, women must bear the burden of responsibility in being proactive. Oh boy. I’ve heard...

Every Man’s Buzzkill

If you’ve grown up in the church or been exposed to church culture for any period of time, one concept you’ve undoubtedly heard when talking about matters of sexual integrity or purity is this idea of a “battle.” To be more specific…...

The Lies of a Timeline

There are so many myths surrounding recovery and the pursuit of real freedom. These things are said not only to the person struggling but also to their spouse. A major component of recovery that is shared with betrayed partners is the timeframe it can take for their...