Healthy Conflict Resolution

Conflict is inevitable. The determining factor for healthy relationships is not the absence of conflict but the ability to work through them. Many people battling addictions have trouble with conflict resolution. Rather than confronting an issue, one might look at...

Love That Changes Lives

They were going to kill me. Many years ago, a group of men caught me doing something terrible. As they dragged me away, sheer terror exploded through my body like lightning, because I knew they were going to kill me. More than that, I knew how men like these operated:...

How To Share Your Story to Help Others Through Theirs

Debilitating guilt. Difficult habits. Dehumanized marriage. You recognize the warning signs of sexual addiction because you have firsthand experience. While your story might not be something you’ve shared with everyone, you’ll notice that some people will...

Why You Need To Forgive To Get Free

Did you know that unforgiveness could be stopping you from overcoming pornography? I’ve worked with a lot of men over the years to help them get free of porn. I’ve worked with young and old, rich and poor, students, doctors, and everything in between. And...

Tangible Steps to Freedom

“Motivation is what gets you to start, and habit is what keeps you going.” – Jim Ryun These words summarize the path I’ve taken to healing from my addictions: alcohol, promiscuity, and living a generally hedonistic lifestyle. I remember what...

What Happens After 10 Years of No Porn?

From a predator to a protector A few years ago, one of my pastors told me, “Men tend to become one of two things: a predator of women or a protector of women.” Again and again, I’ve seen this statement proved right — not just in others’...