Surviving Stinkin’ Thinkin:’ Part 2

Over the last several weeks we have been deconstructing some of the lies wives of sex addicts (as well as their friends and spouses) are being told about “what she needs to be doing.” A website that I have sent people to for years posted one extremely...

The Wife is to Blame?: Part 2

Last week our guest blogger, Jane Howcroft, shared insights from scripture on a common lie about lust—that men won’t do it (or sexually act out) if they’re being satisfied sexually by their wife. Today, Jane is going to further dismantle the lies in...

The Wife’s to Blame ?

Today’s post, the first in a two-part series, tackles a common myth circulating in the church, and beyond, that men wouldn’t “wander” (i.e. use porn, lust, act out sexually with others) if their wives were just working harder to please them...

“Co-Dependent:” Not Healing for Couples

At the 2014 IACSAS Redeeming Sexuality and Intimacy Conference, couple’s counselor Dorit Reichental made a profound statement. She said that treatment models that tell the addict to “stay on his side of the street” and the partner to “stay on...

“Co-Dependent”: Not Healing for Women

In the last few posts we’ve looked at where the co-dependent label is off, and what the factors are that cause co-dependent traits (when the label is closer to the mark). Today I’d like to look closer at why many of our support groups are labeling wives as...