Holiday Self-Care

Self-care. What many Christian women hear when I say this word is “self-indulgence” or just plain “selfishness.” What I’d like you to hear in that word is “self-preservation.” Self-preservation is not about putting yourself...

Managing our Emotions (with our God)

Last week we looked at how to deal with our trauma emotions with the help of others. But sadly, for many of us safe, mature, regulated people are not always available when we need them. Thus, today we’ll look at how we can work through some of these emotions...

Managing Emotions (With Our Peeps)

Rage. Despair. Terror. These are some of the strong negative emotions we may find ourselves experiencing after discovery/disclosure of our husband’s betrayal or sex addiction. These emotions are a normal part of the journey for a betrayed wife who has been...

The Younger PSA

Last week we looked at some of the experiences faced by older wives/partners of sex addicts. Today I’ll look at some of the common challenges I see younger PSAs facing. Cultural Cognitive Distortion In Beyond Betrayal I discuss the concept of “minimize,...

Aging: While a PSA

This past week I turned 50. This has caused me to reflect, not for the first time, on the challenges unique to the older betrayed wife. This week I’ll share some of these reflections, and next week I’ll look at some of the challenges unique to our younger...

SA: Making the Earth Quake

In proverbs 30, Agur (son of Jaketh) writes: Under three things the earth quakes; under four it cannot bear up: under a slave when he becomes king, and a fool when he is satisfied with food; under an unloved woman when she gets a husband, and a maidservant when she...