Fear: Part 2

Those of us who have been around PSA (partner of sex addict) circles awhile will remember the scathing, malicious article that appeared in Psychology Today a few years ago on the topic of partners of sex addicts and PTSD. In January 2016, however, Psychology Today won...

The Pain: Fear

Today I want to acknowledge the most common (and natural) fears wives of sex addicts face – fear of future betrayal and fear for our children. Next week I’ll look at the more general and pervasive fears/anxiety that we face on this journey. Fear Protects...

The Pain

The pain of betrayal runs deeper than words can describe. When women try to express it verbally it’s almost always in the language of graphic violence: “It felt like I had been stabbed in the heart over and over and was bleeding to death,” said one...

It’s His Problem: Why Do I need Help?

by Dan Drake If you have recently discovered your partner’s secret sexual activities you may have thought or said something very similar to this, “He’s the one with the addiction, so why do I need therapy?” You may (very understandably) be...

Questions from WSA: Part 3

Over the last few weeks I’ve been answering the question: what are the top 10 questions you’ve heard from wives/partners of porn and sex addicts and how would you answer these? Ted Shimer of Freedom Fight, has now created a handout with these questions and...

Top Questions from WSAs: Part 2

This week we continue with more questions that those still in relationship with their sexually addicted husband often want answered soon after disclosure. Many thanks to Dr Barbara Steffens of APSATS who originally answered our last question today as part of our Ask...