She’s Not the Enemy

by Jeff Hutchinson “If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.”— Mark 3:25 My wife, Ella, and I have been facilitating couples’ intensives since 2011. For addicts who are taking recovery seriously and partners who have...

6 Things the Church Should Never Say: Part 2

by Ella Hutchinson Last week we launched Ella’s two-part post on six things the Church Should never say to wives of sex addicts. As Ella mentioned in Part 1, there are doubtless more things yet that get said (that shouldn’t), but these six are ones that...

What Michelangelo Taught Me About Betrayal

Last month, while in Europe visiting family, my husband, daughter and I went to Florence. We spent three days looking at various well-known works of renaissance art and architecture… to the point where our daughter’s refrain became, “No more art,...

Enraged!

I have long understood that anger, possibly even rage, is inevitable on this journey. I devote many pages of Beyond Betrayal to examples of survey respondents’ (and my own) anger, and our reactions to it (usually guilt). Only recently, though have I also begun...

Shocked!

One of the respondents to the 2014/2015 Survey of Wives of Sex Addicts, conducted for Beyond Betrayal said she felt like she was walking around in shock for about three months after disclosure. Another stated: “I almost checked out mentally when he told me. I...