On Trauma, Triggers… Part 2

Last week I spent some time distinguishing between betrayal trauma (the results of a one-time disclosure event and/or a long-standing pattern of abuse, neglect, etc.), triggers/PTSD  (the aftershocks of betrayal trauma) and re-traumatization (new traumas on the...

On Trauma, Triggers and Re-Traumatization

Many of you who read this blog are already familiar with concepts like “betrayal trauma” and “triggers”. That’s great. I want to throw another one at you today, which is “re-traumatization” and hopefully by the time you finish...

2020: A New Thing?

“Forget the former things;    do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!    Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?I am making a way in the wilderness    and streams in the wasteland.” – Isaiah 43: 18-19...

Best of 2019

In today’s post I’m reviewing some of the best resources for those working through sex addiction (or problematic sexual behaviors) and betrayal trauma that I came across this year. Please note that not every resource is helpful for every individual/couple....

More Gifts of Self-Care

Working off Cat and Fran’s self-care, PIES model from last week, some seasonal self-care tips for those of us with betrayal trauma include: Physical – Daily physical exercise, ideally with fresh air and sunshine; when we feel we are moving into that...

Self-Care Planning

By Cat Etherington and Fran Hopwood of Naked Truth Recovery Self-care is about doing things that are good for you.Self-soothing is about doing things that feel good. Both are important and necessary tools for healing from betrayal trauma. However, it is important to...