Do Boundaries Mean I’m Co-Dependent?

I’m aware that a number of women in our community (and sisters on a similar journey not in the community) currently find themselves living in close quarters with the one who betrayed them… 24/7. Quarantine with the partner who instigated our betrayal...

Surviving… through Community

This is a re-post from a few years ago. Today, I continue to facilitate a US-based group via Naked Truth Project, and a local group in Whangarei, New Zealand. This week I began facilitating a new support group. It’s always an exciting, but slightly stressful...

Discerning: Part 2

Last week I introduced the idea that we may wish to take occasional “snapshots” of our husband’s recovery state in order to evaluate if there is forward progress happening. I began by saying that we might start by taking a snapshot of where our...

Discerning

Last week I wrote on the topic of wives of sex addicts/men with problematic sexual behaviors being accussed of judging their husband. I argued that there is a big difference between discerning (something God asks us to do) and judging (something he asks us not to do)....

Don’t Judge…?

Over the course of my time working with partners of sex addicts  (PSAs) I’ve heard a number of stories of women who have been accused of being “judgmental” for calling their husband out on their sexual sin. The bible obviously has a lot of stern...

I Think Porn’s the Problem…

Last year we kicked off our “ask the experts” series with a question from a wife about her husband’s porn addiction. Thanks to every woman who has sent in questions for these series in past years. If you have a question for one of our sex addiction...