Masking the Pain of Betrayal

In the 2014/2015 Survey of Wives of Sex Addicts I conducted for the Beyond Betrayal book, I asked a question about regrets. One of the answers that frequently came up (8% of respondents) was around using addictive substances (or engaging in an addiction). Another 8%...

The Celibate (with Sex-Addict) Marriage

This week author Briar Whitehead concludes our three-part series on same-sex attraction sex addiction with thoughts on “the celibate marriage.” Obviously there are many wives of sex addicts who are living in a celibate (or near celibate) marriage,...

The Other… Man??

Part 2 of a 3 part series on same-sex attraction (SSA) sex addiction, by Briar Whitehead Why is it, in this heartbreaking business of sexual addiction that we feel more deeply betrayed when we discover our partner has been acting out with another man, rather than with...

Sex Addiction: and the God who heals

by Briar Whitehead, author of Craving for Love: Homosexuality, Relationship Addiction and the God who Heals I am so glad Lisa has written Beyond Betrayal. It’s a book for our times. Today, the clothes are off and the only limits on sexual activity are the limits...

Same-Sex Attraction… in Sex Addiction

I want to begin this post by saying that I’m not by any means an expert in the areas of same-sex attraction, homosexuality, or gender dysphoria. I have been very fortunate to talk to some of the experts over the years, and I will be naming resources so that if...

Defended…Against Vulnerability

This past week my husband and I were talking about a trait we frequently see in unfaithful husbands/husbands with porn or sex addiction. This is a trait my husband also used to exhibit in spades. In fact, it probably took him five years into recovery to start tackling...