To Snoop… or Not to Snoop

A couple of years ago I was in a training with some colleagues and the topic of betrayed wives “snooping” in the aftermath of disclosure/discovery came up. Personally, I’m not fond of the word “snooping.” I prefer to look at this behavior as “information gathering” and I think it’s something most wives do at some point.

Back in the bad old days (of the sex addiction field), information gathering was labeled “maladaptive” and “pathological”—a sign that the wife lacked boundaries and was a co-addict, or at least co-dependent. And while I think the field has made much forward progress

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