Ready for (His) Change

In the closed group I was leading last year an interesting topic came up one night. A few of the women had husbands who had been really engaging the recovery process for many months. The result was that they were changing… in ways that were good (having gotten past those first “angry, ugly” months as I call them).

What was interesting about this was that many of us had been caught off guard by this new man our husband was becoming. Some of the old ways we had previously interacted with him… were no longer working so well.

For example, we were accustomed to assume that our husband’s hard, selfish exterior meant that brusque treatment and sarcasm aimed at him would always just bounce off. Suddenly we were noticing that this treatment was noticeably causing him pain. For the first time were feeling uncomfortable, even somewhat ashamed, of our…

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